If I had to characterize myself in High School I would have said I was over confident, cocky and obnoxiously outgoing. Early years of college I think I calmed but was still rather sociable and secure in myself. However now… I have no idea. I am not only lost socially but in my educational and career aspirations (which is not great because I graduate with my bachelors in 5 weeks), my hobbies, interests and life goals.
I am struggling to find out,
“Who do I want to be when I grow up?”
“What do I want to be when I grow up?”
“How do I want people to remember me? Do I care about how people remember me?”
Upset, by my new lack of understanding and direction I went to google for an answer to my predicament and typed in ‘what do I want to be when I grow up?’ It took me to an amplitude test, which I took, and quickly gave me the results which were that I would be a great ring master and should run away to the circus.
Since I am not very flexible and my sister-in-law is afraid of clowns (and I would love to keep her in my life) I have decided not to take that path. However, on a more serious note, I don’t know what to do. I cannot find a serious career, personality or amplitude test or survey to take to help narrow my ideas that does not cost money or require my address and all personal information. I don’t know where to look or what to do to find myself again.
Any suggestions?
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I'm sorry to say I don't have any suggestions. I was very much in the same boat until a couple years after I was out of college and in the workforce. I never could decide what I wanted to do with myself, despite countless job fairs, career weeks, and even a college class dedicated to helping me find my perfect careers. Ugh. It was so frustrating. I ended up not having a focus in college, and took classes ranging from Spanish, Meteorology, Fencing, and Word Processing. Still, school was a great experience. And eventually, I want to go back to school.
Anyway, over time I found things that I really enjoyed - like playing around with customizable web pages, or creating graphics out of my own drawings, etc. I started dabbling in HTML, and learning how to convert tables from a word processor into a web page, things like that. So I thought, maybe going back to school for web design would be fun! And a few more years down the road, I've really found myself wanting to learn more and more about alternative health, how to best take care of a person's whole body, and avoid unnecessary medical interventions. So, there, I found another thing I might like to go back to school for - holistic health. I'm sure that over the next few decades, I'll find even more things that spark my interest.
Unfortunately, sometimes people just have to live through their life before they figure things out, huh?
I don't think you're lost. I think you're probably just in a very transitional point in your life, trying to connect the "who you were" to the "who I'm going to be". Finding the pieces of the puzzle that make the connection is easier said than done. It's all part of living. ;) I think with faith and prayer, and keeping your mind open to all the possibilities, you'll eventually learn more about who you are and what you want. And if my case goes to show anything, sometimes, you don't really truly figure it out until after you've had significantly more life experience. But that's okay - we're human beings, and we learn by doing.
talk to God more and worry about yourself less. things will work out. service is a good place to start.
Years of education solely focused on a successful career force people to center on their job. I think a career is only a small part of life and almost unrelated to happiness.
It is typical worldly pressure pushing you to think you will finally arrive at happiness when you reach some arbitrary end goal (swanky job, perfected talent, nice car, big house, fame, trip to Disney World, …) To me, the real joy comes from the journey, not in the goal. Training for a triathlon is just as fun as the triathlon.
So here in a couple years when your 7-year-old wakes you up at 2:00AM because he wet the bed, you will be frustrated at first. But then when you help him into dry clothes and make him a little bed on the floor with blankets and pillows, and then explain to him that everyone wets the bed and not to feel embarrassed, he’ll reach up and hug you. Live for this kind of experience.
When you grow up, I think you should be really good at living. In conference Wirthlin said “come what may and love it.” He isn’t saying to be passive, but to be positive. With this attitude, you could be happy as an epileptic garbage man with kids who wet the bed, and a nice condo that won’t sell.
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